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ready, start 40-ish mom
***the opinions expressed on LCC are just that, MY two cents. ***
Fawty is approaching fast, like in 4 months. But I welcome it.
I’ve been blogging for about three years and I always felt I had a bit of a late start. I’m 39 with a 2 and 1 year old. Yeah… I started late. I began journaling my transition into motherhood to vent and record the process of pregnancy but eventually it turned into a blog to reach out and connect with other moms.
I’m finding this blogger world is filled with beautiful, vivacious twenty and thirty something millennial moms and I’m just not relating at times.
Sure, motherhood is a connection in itself but I need to hear from women who made or didn’t have a choice at making babies this late in the game. Is it a good decision or should we have done it way sooner?
No regrets here…. yeah right. The energy alone it takes to keep up with kids is a pro for babies early. But the time for me to have my babies was the time for me to have them. 
First I have to decide what is or thought was a successful blog to me.
Paid.
I see that’s not as easy either. Of course the main goal would be to gain tons of followers and paid advertisements, but at 40 is that really the point.
40, I welcome you with open arms. Grudges are lost, memories matter + kindness is power.
It feels like patience, serenity, flow and grace. .
Is that you GOD?
Now my definition of success has transitioned and for the better. Being successful is connecting with a community of women of color over 40 who want to make positive changes in their lives as well as in their families and communities. I mean it’s our duty and rites of passage as we age in society, to make it better for the new group of moms.
Trill mothers.
I want to inspire women in midlife! And from what I see there aren’t many 40-ish fabulous women of color blogs out there besides fashion and beauty and that is sparse too. Some of us are glamorous and some not fancy, all the time I should say. I clean up well. It’s just beauty and fashion are low on my list with #dembabies. Plus I need help in styling a 40 year old body, yes LAWD somebody help me.
I remember being in my 20s and I looked up to older women mostly not my peers. The beauty, the class, the grace, the confidence…..YES!!!
I’ll put up a post or two on anti-aging or age defying tricks lol…that’s the beauty medium I’m categorized in at 40. Post some outfits besides the mom uniforms. I don’t want to go backwards, sure my 20s were fun but it was a confusing time for me trying to work through life.
So I’ll just remain me.
J a d a.
The plain Jane, the girl next door and hope you find something that ignites a flame, inspires or creates a space where you are able to find what makes you truly happy with your life and yourself.
Whether it is family, love, lifestyle, beauty or fashion I hope you will join me on my journey through 40-ish.
I started a Facebook group called Ready, Start 40-ish
for black moms beginning families 40ish.. just to connect personally with followers… I really hate that word.. working on another term. Please join our 2 member group for now lol.
So good day for now Mamas!
What inspires you right now in the moment? What are some of your over 40 blogs, I’d love to follow?
Blessings!!
xo,
Jada
self-care sunday|| diy face scrub
I posted this a couple months after having my second son over a year ago and I still stick to this routine every Sunday.
With all the skincare products out now it’s pretty hard to choose just one and stick with it.
I aim to use all natural organic products on my skin and the boys. If I can’t eat it then I will not use it on my body. My skin regimen now includes dry brushing (a beneficial technique not just for skin), exfoliating and moisturizing with natural body scrubs and butters.
Changing how I wash my face helped mostly. I now wash with an activated charcoal cleanser, I’ll share that recipe soon, or vegetable soap at night with just a few splashes of water in the morning, spritz of rose water for toner and a cotton ball with grapeseed coconut oil to moisturize.
The compliments are rolling in and it’s nothing short of a confidence booster to say the least.
I love the occasional visits to spas for facials. Iwi Fresh Garden Spa in Atlanta is my fav although I haven’t been in awhile. They use fresh veggies and fruits in their spa services. In between visits, however long it may be, I like to keep up the daily care.
I’ve been using all natural body scrubs for over 7+ years now and it has done wonders from a sun kissed glow to a moisturizing and refreshing feel. My coworkers even wanted me to make them some. My favorite body scrub is the Citrus Sea Salt Scrub.
Using a citrus scrub helps to prevent skin acne, blemishes or a dull complexion. The acidic properties of lemon juice removes dead skin cells and leads to smoother skin. It works wonders as a hand and foot scrub to remove too. The results, pure magic. My skin is soft and not greasy like and it lasts for hours.
The best part, there are only four natural ingredients
1 c coarse sea salt
5-7 drops lemongrass oil
2-3 drops sweet orange oil
2/3c grapeseed oil
I exfoliate once a week although I do use scrubs on my feet daily. Too much exfoliation can cause extreme dryness, inflammation and even broken blood vessels if done too harshly.
What’s your skincare routine?
****the opinions expressed on LCC are just that, MY two cents!****
force not flow
Flow is full of sweet grace and ease where you move WITH the present instead of being stuck because you’re fighting it…with all your might.
There’s no anxiety in flow, there’s no frustration or stagnation, because you’re always moving with it, being attentive and aware of how life speaks and guides you every step in every moment.
I hope you’re taking it easy today. Release the angst, anxiety and worries and just let it flow naturally and organically. Be still in the present. You are exactly where you are supposed to be today.
Just go with the flow!
Happy Sunday Mamas!!
xo,
Jada
less is really more
I have been searching and researching this new minimalist lifestyle that I am hearing about everywhere.
I began my journey following the duo The Minimalists on IG…. check them out. Basically, their take is to find the value in your daily life without the excess that we bury ourselves in each day. This leads to comparison, depression, anxiety and a host of other illnesses that pretty much piggy back off of each other.
Some minimalist have the extreme ideology to live with less than 100 items in their homes including the home and cars. Now at first their take for me seemed a bit extreme at first… I mean only 100 items, that alone took care of my hair products and bathroom necessities alone. Every negative excuse I could think of kept popping up in this head of mine.
Shut up Jada and keep reading.
Minimalism is a tool that can assist you in finding freedom. Freedom from fear. Freedom from worry. Freedom from overwhelm. Freedom from guilt. Freedom from depression. Freedom from the trappings of the consumer culture we’ve built our lives around. Real freedom.
I have to say this style of living seems all too familiar growing up. We were not amongst the 1% sometimes not event the other 99% lol but we were able to maintain and afford the necessities and a few luxuries.
The looks I stumble upon courtesy of my bae Pinterest, seems to involve neutral colors, earth tones, lots of plants and basic accessories.
I really like this last one with the DIY table and night stand. It definitely feels like home growing up and right up my alley for a DIY!
These pictures just give me peace and zen looking at it so I had to go for it and try it out…..small steps so the bathroom is first.
I started with my bath tub area. Unfortunately, I cleared out everything before taking a before shot. Now my bathroom is red from the previous owner so the lighting wasn’t as clear. We’re moving soon so this neutral theme will take place at our new home.
I love candles…. my ideal bathroom has loads of candles surrounding the tub, so this will do for now.
I have plants…. I’m surprised they’ve lived so long to be truthful. 
I tossed the clutter out. I actually felt a bit of relief. My tub had three soap dish holders, body wash bottles, loofahs, scrubs, razors, toys, scattered around aimlessly. Now some might say isn’t that just a good old fashioned cleaning? Sure but the object is to toss out the old, keep ONE item of product and not accumulate. Not allowing the clutter to reappear and distract you from what’s more important.
This may not work for everyone, in fact you don’t have to go as far as clearing all items out. If you have an eye for decorating and the need to have a beautiful home then by all means go for it. The object is to get you into a space that is clean, clutter free and ultimately gives you a chance to focus on what has intangible value in your life and how you can obtain more of it. To not give so much emphasis and value to things.
It gives you freedom from worry.
Life FEELS completely different when you don’t force it.
So I hope you will follow along on my minimal lifestyle quest. This isn’t a process that happens overnight. I’m sure I will fall back many times before accomplishing this process, it could take several years before you actually grasp the concept. Baby steps! Start with a 21 day challenge and grow from there. But it’s worth the wait to me!
Xoxo,
Jada
being a black stay at home mom
I have run into this question often “So what are you doing in your spare time since the kids are in school now” or “don’t you want to work and have your own money?
Why?
Are you in my business?
Why is it so hard to believe that a stay at home mom can be black too? I’ve been at this for about two and a half years now and trust, it is not as easy or as glamorous some Moms make it out to be ALL the time. Everybody cannot be a stay at home mom. I have been working since I was 14 and it was a challenge to let go and completely depend on someone for everything. Now that we are a one income family of four, budgeting is key!
I’m still struggling with that one y’all!
My fiance and I agreed that we were both comfortable with me being home with the kids at least for the first two to three years. I bounced back and forth about whether I would homeschool them or not. Still deciding? The kids began school this year, Apple at age 2 and although I planned on keeping my youngest, Dos, with me another year, a spot at the daycare opened up so I had to jump on it quickly. So off he went at 11 months. Yikes! They are both doing well and making developmental progress as well. I love that if the school calls and needs me to come and see about my babies or just to answer the phones for a few hours, I’m out!!
One call, that’s all….about dem babies!!
Now, what do I do all day?
At first, I literally thought that I would be able to catch up on a little sleep, cleaning and other mundane activities in the house. But it seemed as though the more time I have, the more errands that needed to be ran. Being a stay a stay at home mom is a business that needs a great manager(s) for the household to run like a well oiled machine. Lots of budgeting, time management, networking, finding new mommy friends, chef, maid, healer, comforter, therapist, doctor, teacher, LAUNDRY, so much freakin’ laundry, personal stylist and personal assistant to the bread winner, WHEW!!!
Who said I don’t work?
And most importantly keeping my family happy!
I don’t think white women or any other ethnic group get such a backlash like black women do. It is accepted and the norm for white women to stay at home and take care of the house. The idea of a black stay at home mom is she’s lazy, a gold digger and just wants to be taken cared of her whole life, but never she just wants to be there for her family.
Not many women are forced to be domestic goddesses, it is a choice. Sure, I could work long hours to provide them with every and anything they want and need but what I think MY kids need the most is consistency, stability and love. I believe and hope that more black women will consider the option of staying at home with their kids even if for the beginning years, 0-3.
Yet in the first three years of life, a baby’s developing brain doubles in size. Every tickle, every warm chuckle, every waggle of a toy is a mini-explosion of brain-power, joy and love that impacts on what happens in later years.
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There are countless studies that show kids are better prepared for school, relationships with others and show higher levels of confidence in themselves. We need this more than ever in the black community. Black women need the option and the ability to be comfortable with staying at home and having the opportunity to raise our kids. My kids will always know that one of us will be home when they walk through that door. It was the same with my mother, she was a stay-at-home mom as well.
At times it feels like it could be a slight hint of envy when I tell people I stay at home.
Mad?
I use my time to cultivate my mind, find inspiration and ideas to make my home and the ones in it feel loved. I am developing my boys’ mental and physical well being through home activities, I cook, I clean, I love…… Look!…You know what goes on in a household so that times three for me. I continue working on my own businesses as well. Warren Buffett says a millionaire has at least seven streams of income—–seven.
Marinate.
NOW. I am not blind to the fact that all women cannot stay at home whether it be financial incapabilities or they just aren’t capable of being at home all day with children, trust me I get it. For me, I choose to sacrifice that little bit of time for a better long term result.
But for now…. I choose to enjoy my babies!!
I am blessed to have a partner that believes in my dreams as well. You see he owns his own business and understands the risks that are taken, the FREE time you put into your dreams and the fruits from it. I take pride in the work I do for my family and no one can do it better than me. I will continue this until my kids are at an age of obtaining their independence, so like 4….*shrugs
All in all I enjoy every minute of it. Even when it is challenging at times. I would not trade it for the world.
I don’t mind sharing it with the world either!
Blessings,
Jada
