I have taken a lot of time to read many new mom blogs, pregnancy journals and just viewing different maternity sites. In my leisure time I do admit to browsing the latest celebrity news and I cant help but become bombarded with the newest celeb pregnancies and the weight they have gained. It seems to me that nothing is off limits when you become famous, which I understand because now you live under a microscope and your every moved is watched and judged and placed on display for lookers such as myself to view. However, I’m noticing more and more body-shaming towards expecting mothers and their changing bodies.
There used to be a time where you would dare not say an unpleasant word to a pregnant woman because….HEY she’s carrying life. It is expected for weight gain, swollen ankles, waddling, intense hormonal changes and God forbid any pregnancy related medical issues such as gestational diabetes, preeclampsia or worse miscarriages to occur. It’s the price we bear to give new life to the world. Celebs in the likes of Beyonce, Jessica Simpson, Mariah Carey and the list goes on and on have taken some of these punches during their pregnancy.
One celebrity in particular that the media loves to tear apart is Kim Kardashian West….oh you do know of her right? She has gotten the worst of comments from her pregnancy with her first child with Kanye West, North West.
She’s been called all sorts of names that I shall not partake in that it made me wonder how can a woman in the limelight that she willingly committed to, go home and still remain positive and keep high self-esteem during a time when your body does the opposite of every hard effort you may or may not have tried to achieve. She was recently interviewed saying
“I couldn’t help it, and everyone would say, “She can’t stop eating.” I delivered at 180, and they were like, “She’s 210 pounds. She’s getting dumped because she’s too fat” and all these ridiculous stories. It really took a toll after the fact, when I was losing weight. I gained 50 pounds, and it’s tough to get it off.”
Don’t get me wrong–I’m not the hugest Kim K fan but no woman deserves the hurling insults that she was given and she had severe medical issues throughout her pregnancy. Now she’s on to pregnancy number two and I have to say she looks great. I personally love pregnant women and the elderly a little plumper than the norm!!
This leads me to believe that there is a certain heir of being thin that makes people think that they can judge others. The worst part is a lot of the comments were coming from men.. Seriously?! You’ve never and never will carry a baby and will never know what it is like to, so you have no room to judge. I could never tell you what to do with your balls and frankly I could care less to place my opinions on them! Only you know how to juggle those. Thin is cool but not everyone chooses or desires to be size 2’s, 4’s, 6’s….10’s or 12’s for that matter or whatever thin is considered. Hell, I’m perfectly comfortable with my weight gain to a size 12-14 during pregnancy……………yep I admitted it, no shame here! Fat shamers have several seats!!
Each time I was caught saying “Babe I feel huge” or “My arse is getting bigger” I am always combatted with “baby you’re pregnant and I don’t want to hear otherwise or anyone else say otherwise.” So those types of responses to my current insecurities answered my questions…..she had someone, Kanye, there that loved her enough to respect the unselfless obligation of carrying a child for not herself but the father as well.
We have to get to a place where we can accept not only others but ourselves as well. Placing judgement on others to make us feel better or just to be mean and nasty has no place in a positive aspiring place to dwell. Maybe, if we didn’t show so much attention to these celebrities personal lives and just focus on the art that they create and signed up for these types of insensitive tones will lessen. But who am I kidding that’s just me living in a fanatasy world. Until then world…………I’m enjoying this slice of lemon loaf from Starbucks until my heart is content! I will worry about the calorie count after delivery!
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