“What the hand does the mind remembers.” ~ Maria Montessori
I delight in the compliments that are given to Apple and Dos, well Apple for the most part about his table manners and his behavior at school and in public. I care that he learns academia but I also want polite, respectful and somewhat well mannered kids. I mean kids will be kids. Don’t get me wrong, I know they will not be completely innocent or well mannered at all times but we hope to instill a solid foundation that they will return to. Train a child up, right?
So this brings us to responsibilities that they have around the house as toddlers. My fiancé grew up on a farm and tells the tales of the hard work that came with his adolescent years. He definitely knows the meaning of hard work and working together as a family unit. For the most part, I am blessed to have him have the upperhand in how the boys are disciplined. We don’t use physical force but we do have consequences with certain actions.
When the boys wake up they have what we call the Morning High Five that we try to keep in our morning routine. I found this diagram to follow and you just implement the five activities to teach you’d like to teach them.
- Makes his bed
- Changes out of PJs and into clothes
- Eats breakfast
- Kitchen chore (put his plate in sink, wipe his placemat down)
- Brush his teeth
All of these activities he absolutely needs assistance with and met with resistance the first few times.
But he is now adamant about doing them himself now. No problem, shawty!!!
Now first let me say there is nothing wrong with the way YOU want to parent. I’m just giving you insight into our day. Everything ain’t for everybody. Do you Mama!!!! WE on the other hand just feel that doing everything for them all the time instills a sense of entitlement that someone will pick up or clean after them all the time.
People ask me how do I handle two toddlers and my best advice is consistency and routines. Routines were and still are difficult for me to master, you see I am the most unstructured person. I live spontaneously. I have learned to try to follow a routine but sooner or later I break free. But with kids I had to take a step back or two. Kids need consistency and stability. It allows them to feel safe and secure and they don’t even know it. They want and crave boundaries they just don’t know it.
So, Apple has caught on to his routines and even will remind me if I forget a time or two. We currently have three fish, Sushi, Tigguh and Kleo and he “helps” with cleaning the tank.
So when I get those simple compliments it makes me proud that they are continuing what they have learned away from home.
Half of my job is then done!!
What types of chores do you give your toddler or so they not have chores? I’d love to hear about it?