The last three years have been great, I have connected with other moms, made new friends, live and socially.

BUT.

There is always a but, how effective is my platform. I am always at a cross roads as to what content to post that will create a discussion. When you look at all the social media influencer pages everything is prim, proper, beautiful, even mystifying with bold pictures.

BUT.

At first, I truly blogged in hopes of gaining followers and being labeled as an “influencer.” Securing the bag and gaining popularity was high on the list.

But now that my kids are growing, I cannot help but notice the world and the times we live in. To be a great parent is to make your mark, set paths and examples and legacy for your kids. The ultimate goal: for them to have and be better than what you are.

We are living in horrible times with that demon and his inept wife as president, yes I said it, I have no sympathy for her either. Women have often been just as treacherous as their racist and bigoted counterparts.

Being a racist is becoming popular. Hatred is becoming popular. Violence is popular. And it could happen to anyone at anytime.

No racism has always been there. We’ve just never seen it’s ugly face displayed as often as we see on TV.

I loathe him and all that his administration and followers stand for.

There is no safety, no peace, no kindness, no compassion, no tolerance and lastly there is no GOD in this administration.

Haven’t you noticed?

I have worked very hard to get to the point where I have a true voice and at this point in my life and my career I have a responsibility to do what’s best for the world and not what is most popular.’ – Beyonce

At this point in my life, at 40, popularity isn’t even a goal for me. Change is. Doing what is mandatory for my kids to thrive in America. I want to use this platform to shed light on the good in the world but also the worst of it.

But first, VOTE them out of office. I’m with Maxine Waters, if you see them in public, let them know how you feel. After all they work for us, our voices.

The youth of today began this millennial movement for change with the March for Our Lives movement to change gun laws.

I am delighted young people are aware and involved. Watch out!

I hope you’re registered because voting, not just in the presidential election, but primary elections will change this presidency. Vote out the senators, state representatives and lawmakers that do not have our best interests at heart. You can register and check to see if your registration is still valid here it only takes 30 seconds.

Do you know her?

Her name is Nia Wilson.

Say it with me.

Say her name.

Nia Wilson.

If you haven’t heard of her please click here to be informed. She was the victim of a horrible white supremaciat stabbing attack that took her life and left her sister critically injured.

I mean what in the fuck is going on.

Being racist is becoming popular. Hatred is popular. Violence is popular. And it could happen to anyone at anytime.

Yes, even you.

We have loads of work to do. It’s cool to post your beauty hacks, dopest outfits and places and people you have seen. Enjoy life, really enjoy it. But can you really be at peace when another’s life doesn’t matter, isn’t fully capable or allowed to enjoy the liberties and freedoms of the world.

But don’t forget life outside those squares is real. I hope you are using your voice for change as well. We can’t be distracted by what only makes us feel good. We have to always be affected by that lump I our throats, the drops of our stomach and tearing eyes to stay connected to each other I this world .

It’s really simple, the solution that is.

LOVE.

I know it cliche but it’s the truth. Because within love you find, peace, hope, faith and ACTION. Love is all of those things but most of all, it’s a verb.

Love is action.

So I will be at rallies this year, protest, signing petitions, making donations and whatever it takes to make change happen.

But until then I will enjoy babies and my family in my lifetime and pray this world will be different for #dembabies

Blessings!!

xo,

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hats off to the bride

It’s exactly 58 days away until our wedding or as I tell my Mama…”it’s not a wedding, it’s an experience.” The day finally came.

My bridal shower…..and it was heavenly..

I’m not big on attention and weddings are the exact opposite. All of the attention is on the bride. So I’m working through this social intro-extrovert…-ism I have going on.

Planning this wedding is nothing short of stressful, just the details that go into planning is taxing but I must say I am enjoying the ride.

I’ll say I anticipated this day being surrounded by family and friends in celebration of the big day.  I’ve also somewhat dreaded this day because of what I’d wear and what I’d look like in it.

I wanted everyone to look absolutely fabulous so it was a dresses and fascinators themed event.

It’s was a rough year with two pregnancies and two casearan’s.   My body has done some things and unfairly, I have done some things to my body.

But that fear came and went and I decided my mommy heart was bigger than my tummy part!!

Take a peek….

****Photo credits of the food and decorations taken by my future cousin in law Keisha Carter. 

#StillOnAHigh Lemme tell you I worked hard to get into an XL from my fav website for dresses which is the largest size they offer. Diet changes & exercise was/is a must. I had a C-section, got pregnant 3 months later then had another C-section all in ONE year. My doc was not happy with me but a woman’s body is f$cking amazing ……so yeah it was a rough year for me. I almost said I wasn’t gonna wear this dress bc of my tummy but shit ain’t nobody ehva said to me I love your tummy Jada….NOPE…. always I love YOU Jada… So mommy’s shout out to your tummy’s….if nobody else rub/loves it make sure you do!! 

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my happy isn’t your happy 

In continuing with May’s 30 days of Happy I spent the day at the playground with the kids and my little cousin.  We normally spend a few days out of the week at the playground but today was a bit of a happier day.



I realized that I have genuine fun with my kids.
 I’m happy, I laugh and enjoy being with them.

My kids, especially the toddler for the moment, quick witted and hilarious with tones and inflections in his voice and incomprehensible sentences.

Of course as a mother you go through the I’ve had enough moments but the majority of my days are delightful.

I’m able to lighten up with my kids.  Be free.  Be present.

I look at them and enjoy the naïveté they have for the world around them.  They’re aim in life is looking for that next giggle in whatever theyre engaged in.  Just being happy.
Simple.

Just be happy.


I aim to have child like qualities, especially child-like happiness and child-like faith…believe in anything!!

So.

be happy.

 

daddy’s home 

I’m curious.  

Why are they here? 

Here, where I would like for them to be.  Maybe my 18 month old had something to do with it. 

He’s an electrician by trade so there is no telling where he’ll walk, so I prefer to have them at the door.  Especially with an almost 7 month old scooter, not crawling just yet.   Not to mention, steel toe rubber soled size 11 in the way.  My baby toe yall. 

Glad to know one of them is listening to me. 

I don’t get to see this as often as I’d like.  You see, he’s taking on his business full time.  So he works long hours.  

It’s raining here in the A so to see this, I’m delighted.  

daddy’s home. 

30 days of happy 

Happy May! 

“I embrace success. The words “I Can’t” are not in my vocabulary. I refuse to believe my own excuses! I am unstoppable!!” 

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May is Mental Health Awareness month.  Time to get your mind right and in tune with the body and spirit.  Normally, this month brings awareness to mental illnesses but I believe creating a space to protect your inner peace allows you to be at your best mentally.  I know for me it seems like bordeline chaos with two kids under two and I am tested daily.   The daily routine of diapers, naps and feedings can become mundane.  Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE my babies and quite frankly wouldn’t have it any other way but it can be mentally exhausting at times.   Rest works best here but when those tantrum filled pinwheels hit, those quiet whispers “I can do this, I can do this, I can do this” helps to reaffirm that I can do this.  

Life can cloud and distract you mentally from achieving, conquering goals by day to day living. 

I am beginning to use daily affirmations that will encourage confidence and keep me mentally aware of the present.  I will incorporate finding something to be happy about each day.  I encourage you too.  

I subscribe to affirmations from Happy Black Woman to reaffirm what we already should know but we all need motivation and a self esteem boost occasionally.  

Let’s change the narrative! 

Day 1 of Happy 

My TWA has grown out and it’s raining here in Atlanta so I get to wear a beautiful headwrap.  

Repetition creates habits.  Only a 30 days left to create this habit and lifetime of enjoying your happy!