The last three years have been great, I have connected with other moms, made new friends, live and socially.

BUT.

There is always a but, how effective is my platform. I am always at a cross roads as to what content to post that will create a discussion. When you look at all the social media influencer pages everything is prim, proper, beautiful, even mystifying with bold pictures.

BUT.

At first, I truly blogged in hopes of gaining followers and being labeled as an “influencer.” Securing the bag and gaining popularity was high on the list.

But now that my kids are growing, I cannot help but notice the world and the times we live in. To be a great parent is to make your mark, set paths and examples and legacy for your kids. The ultimate goal: for them to have and be better than what you are.

We are living in horrible times with that demon and his inept wife as president, yes I said it, I have no sympathy for her either. Women have often been just as treacherous as their racist and bigoted counterparts.

Being a racist is becoming popular. Hatred is becoming popular. Violence is popular. And it could happen to anyone at anytime.

No racism has always been there. We’ve just never seen it’s ugly face displayed as often as we see on TV.

I loathe him and all that his administration and followers stand for.

There is no safety, no peace, no kindness, no compassion, no tolerance and lastly there is no GOD in this administration.

Haven’t you noticed?

I have worked very hard to get to the point where I have a true voice and at this point in my life and my career I have a responsibility to do what’s best for the world and not what is most popular.’ – Beyonce

At this point in my life, at 40, popularity isn’t even a goal for me. Change is. Doing what is mandatory for my kids to thrive in America. I want to use this platform to shed light on the good in the world but also the worst of it.

But first, VOTE them out of office. I’m with Maxine Waters, if you see them in public, let them know how you feel. After all they work for us, our voices.

The youth of today began this millennial movement for change with the March for Our Lives movement to change gun laws.

I am delighted young people are aware and involved. Watch out!

I hope you’re registered because voting, not just in the presidential election, but primary elections will change this presidency. Vote out the senators, state representatives and lawmakers that do not have our best interests at heart. You can register and check to see if your registration is still valid here it only takes 30 seconds.

Do you know her?

Her name is Nia Wilson.

Say it with me.

Say her name.

Nia Wilson.

If you haven’t heard of her please click here to be informed. She was the victim of a horrible white supremaciat stabbing attack that took her life and left her sister critically injured.

I mean what in the fuck is going on.

Being racist is becoming popular. Hatred is popular. Violence is popular. And it could happen to anyone at anytime.

Yes, even you.

We have loads of work to do. It’s cool to post your beauty hacks, dopest outfits and places and people you have seen. Enjoy life, really enjoy it. But can you really be at peace when another’s life doesn’t matter, isn’t fully capable or allowed to enjoy the liberties and freedoms of the world.

But don’t forget life outside those squares is real. I hope you are using your voice for change as well. We can’t be distracted by what only makes us feel good. We have to always be affected by that lump I our throats, the drops of our stomach and tearing eyes to stay connected to each other I this world .

It’s really simple, the solution that is.

LOVE.

I know it cliche but it’s the truth. Because within love you find, peace, hope, faith and ACTION. Love is all of those things but most of all, it’s a verb.

Love is action.

So I will be at rallies this year, protest, signing petitions, making donations and whatever it takes to make change happen.

But until then I will enjoy babies and my family in my lifetime and pray this world will be different for #dembabies

Blessings!!

xo,

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less is really more

I have been searching and researching this new minimalist lifestyle that I am hearing about everywhere.

I began my journey following the duo The Minimalists on IG…. check them out. Basically, their take is to find the value in your daily life without the excess that we bury ourselves in each day. This leads to comparison, depression, anxiety and a host of other illnesses that pretty much piggy back off of each other.

Some minimalist have the extreme ideology to live with less than 100 items in their homes including the home and cars. Now at first their take for me seemed a bit extreme at first… I mean only 100 items, that alone took care of my hair products and bathroom necessities alone. Every negative excuse I could think of kept popping up in this head of mine.

Shut up Jada and keep reading.

Minimalism is a tool that can assist you in finding freedom. Freedom from fear. Freedom from worry. Freedom from overwhelm. Freedom from guilt. Freedom from depression. Freedom from the trappings of the consumer culture we’ve built our lives around. Real freedom.

I have to say this style of living seems all too familiar growing up. We were not amongst the 1% sometimes not event the other 99% lol but we were able to maintain and afford the necessities and a few luxuries.

The looks I stumble upon courtesy of my bae Pinterest, seems to involve neutral colors, earth tones, lots of plants and basic accessories.

I really like this last one with the DIY table and night stand. It definitely feels like home growing up and right up my alley for a DIY!

These pictures just give me peace and zen looking at it so I had to go for it and try it out…..small steps so the bathroom is first.

I started with my bath tub area. Unfortunately, I cleared out everything before taking a before shot. Now my bathroom is red from the previous owner so the lighting wasn’t as clear. We’re moving soon so this neutral theme will take place at our new home.

I love candles…. my ideal bathroom has loads of candles surrounding the tub, so this will do for now.

I have plants…. I’m surprised they’ve lived so long to be truthful.

I tossed the clutter out. I actually felt a bit of relief. My tub had three soap dish holders, body wash bottles, loofahs, scrubs, razors, toys, scattered around aimlessly. Now some might say isn’t that just a good old fashioned cleaning? Sure but the object is to toss out the old, keep ONE item of product and not accumulate. Not allowing the clutter to reappear and distract you from what’s more important.

This may not work for everyone, in fact you don’t have to go as far as clearing all items out. If you have an eye for decorating and the need to have a beautiful home then by all means go for it. The object is to get you into a space that is clean, clutter free and ultimately gives you a chance to focus on what has intangible value in your life and how you can obtain more of it. To not give so much emphasis and value to things.

It gives you freedom from worry.

Life FEELS completely different when you don’t force it.

So I hope you will follow along on my minimal lifestyle quest. This isn’t a process that happens overnight. I’m sure I will fall back many times before accomplishing this process, it could take several years before you actually grasp the concept. Baby steps! Start with a 21 day challenge and grow from there. But it’s worth the wait to me!

Xoxo,

Jada

my happy isn’t your happy 

In continuing with May’s 30 days of Happy I spent the day at the playground with the kids and my little cousin.  We normally spend a few days out of the week at the playground but today was a bit of a happier day.



I realized that I have genuine fun with my kids.
 I’m happy, I laugh and enjoy being with them.

My kids, especially the toddler for the moment, quick witted and hilarious with tones and inflections in his voice and incomprehensible sentences.

Of course as a mother you go through the I’ve had enough moments but the majority of my days are delightful.

I’m able to lighten up with my kids.  Be free.  Be present.

I look at them and enjoy the naïveté they have for the world around them.  They’re aim in life is looking for that next giggle in whatever theyre engaged in.  Just being happy.
Simple.

Just be happy.


I aim to have child like qualities, especially child-like happiness and child-like faith…believe in anything!!

So.

be happy.

 

throwback thursday 

Im several days late posting but no better time than the present.

Ha! 

We all have a past…. I started at Waffle House two days before 9/11 and left in 2015 when I found out I was pregnant. I was a salesperson and worked up and became a HR/Unit trainer along with one or two other jobs as well. 

This job taught me so much about life, how shallow, mean and wonderful people could be and how shallow and judgmental I was and how to move, move, move under pressure. Guys( aka f$&kboys 🙊 ha) wouldn’t date me after finding out where I worked and some friends, acquaintances acted as if they didn’t know me. It made me feel sad at first because I was still immature too but then I grew to learn I have the best use of discernment through my job. I began to understand I was provided a way to weed out people that didn’t belong in my wonderful temporary place in life at that time. I hadn’t planned on working here that long but, LIFE and all my choices (some good some worse) happened. 

I learned a lot here but most of all, I was making them coins baby lol, I had fun as a waitress and met some cool customers and made life long friends I still talk too!! It paid my bills, every last one of them and some other people’s too. You never know….I could’ve been your angel in disguise, friend, associate or wife, HA!! So I post this to say…… The storm doesn’t last long folks! Hold on and keep swimming.  

I wouldn’t change a thing because I wouldn’t have met him or had them.

My favorite meal was the Chicken & Eggs… what was yours?

diy || alkaline water is life 

It’s the truth! 

Water is life.  Can’t live without it.  I normally drink a fair amount between 3-4 8oz bottles a day but I know I need to drink more.  It’s not very easy for me to drink a gallon a day, the bathroom breaks, ridiculous.  I prefer to buy bottles, more of a mind thing I believe.  

Now that I am breastfeeding I am trying to increase my water intake.  I recently started buying alkaline water but these pockets can’t afford to buy the amount necessary for daily intake for the entire house. 

So, I found a way around the cost, KEY LIMES! 

Who knew that those tiny little limes packed such a powerful punch.  Superfood! 

Some acidic foods (lemons, limes and vinegar) will balance the pH levels in your body.  Sounds crazy right?!  I use lemons quite frequently but I love the taste of limes.

Key limes, the smaller limes, are an effective and cheaper way to alkalize your water.  The benefits are outstanding: 

  1. Better gastrointestinal health 
  2. Energy and immune booster
  3. Anti-aging effects 
  4. Mental clarity
  5. Weight loss 
  6. Keeps hair, skin and nails healthy 
  7. Relieves symptoms of arthritis



I am not a doctor but I grew up in a healthier lifestyle as a child than I maintain now and I am working hard to get back home.  

I truly want an Arnold Palmer right now but…

So turn up that water jug! 

Cheers….or as my son would say chaaaaaaaasss!!! 

Do you alkalize your water? What methods do you use? 

*****the opinions expressed on LCC are just that,  MY two cents*****