what’s not to like

Growing up I didn’t care for my side profile.

I had a flat face or a pie face as I was teased lol. At 27, I remember saying “I am sick and tired of picking myself apart.” Went back natural and haven’t looked back.

I intentionally picked those parts I had a problem with and chose to accentuate it, accept it and love it.

More side pics of that flat face.

Bright red lipsticks for my full lips.

And smile as often as I can with my gap.

It was all in my head, literally, vanity.

No one was even concerned about my flaws like I was or I was too unbothered to notice by then. That same thinking has carried me through motherhood and this new body.

Its really easy to pick apart all the things that are wrong with you, lose a little weight here, nip and tuck there but even easier to just embrace it.

Make it yours.

There only one you.

At 40 I see some shit just ain’t gone change.

Genetics. But in this millennial world I have relating cliches…live tour best life!

You’ve got people depending on it Mama!

God don’t make no mistakes. Your flaws are your purpose whether it be to change them or flaunt them in all their beauty.

You are the ONLY thing that will is consistent throughout your entire journey in life. So you better like yourself.

I say all that to say side profiles make my shit look fly-er!!

I make jewelry to and this was a customer request.

The 2nd pic is motherhood while working… I see you boy! Get down!

What parts of you have you grown to love?

xo,

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ready, start 40-ish mom

***the opinions expressed on LCC are just that, MY two cents. ***

Fawty is approaching fast, like in 4 months. But I welcome it.

I’ve been blogging for about three years and I always felt I had a bit of a late start. I’m 39 with a 2 and 1 year old. Yeah… I started late. I began journaling my transition into motherhood to vent and record the process of pregnancy but eventually it turned into a blog to reach out and connect with other moms.

I’m finding this blogger world is filled with beautiful, vivacious twenty and thirty something millennial moms and I’m just not relating at times.

Sure, motherhood is a connection in itself but I need to hear from women who made or didn’t have a choice at making babies this late in the game. Is it a good decision or should we have done it way sooner?

No regrets here…. yeah right. The energy alone it takes to keep up with kids is a pro for babies early. But the time for me to have my babies was the time for me to have them.

Photo by Kita Bryant

First I have to decide what is or thought was a successful blog to me.

Paid.

I see that’s not as easy either. Of course the main goal would be to gain tons of followers and paid advertisements, but at 40 is that really the point.

40, I welcome you with open arms. Grudges are lost, memories matter + kindness is power.

It feels like patience, serenity, flow and grace. .

Is that you GOD?

Now my definition of success has transitioned and for the better. Being successful is connecting with a community of women of color over 40 who want to make positive changes in their lives as well as in their families and communities. I mean it’s our duty and rites of passage as we age in society, to make it better for the new group of moms.

Trill mothers.

I want to inspire women in midlife! And from what I see there aren’t many 40-ish fabulous women of color blogs out there besides fashion and beauty and that is sparse too. Some of us are glamorous and some not fancy, all the time I should say. I clean up well. It’s just beauty and fashion are low on my list with #dembabies. Plus I need help in styling a 40 year old body, yes LAWD somebody help me.

I remember being in my 20s and I looked up to older women mostly not my peers. The beauty, the class, the grace, the confidence…..YES!!!

I’ll put up a post or two on anti-aging or age defying tricks lol…that’s the beauty medium I’m categorized in at 40. Post some outfits besides the mom uniforms. I don’t want to go backwards, sure my 20s were fun but it was a confusing time for me trying to work through life.

So I’ll just remain me.

J a d a.

The plain Jane, the girl next door and hope you find something that ignites a flame, inspires or creates a space where you are able to find what makes you truly happy with your life and yourself.

Whether it is family, love, lifestyle, beauty or fashion I hope you will join me on my journey through 40-ish.

I started a Facebook group called Ready, Start 40-ish

for black moms beginning families 40ish.. just to connect personally with followers… I really hate that word.. working on another term. Please join our 2 member group for now lol.

So good day for now Mamas!

What inspires you right now in the moment? What are some of your over 40 blogs, I’d love to follow?

Blessings!!

xo,

Jada

turning your hustle into a business

I am the last person on Earth to tell someone go and get a job.  I say Go and Build a job.  Over the weekend I attended a meet-up for Mompreneurs or aspiring entrepreneurs on marketing yourself and not being afraid of publicity. It was dynamic to say the least! Connecting and networking with some brilliant minded individuals that just need an extra push.

I’ve met so many wonderful, encouraging and inspiring women along this journey — it’s priceless.  We all want the same things regardless of color, to contribute to the legacy of our namesake and build for our family.  And hopefully,  empower others to go for it too.

So now what do you do?

Make money moooooooves… I love Cardi B!

I have been doing odd administrative jobs here and there for local businesses, family and friends. It never dawned on me to make that my official business until this year. I’ve heard from many entrepreneurs the best time to start a business is when you’re unemployed or fed up with what you’re doing. You have more time to invest into your venture. Broke but time to build your brand. I began writing for this blog to document my journey into motherhood but see it has turned into so much more. I’ve learned so much from strangers and advocates of black motherhood and parenting.

You have to have more than one stream of income, at least seven according to Warren Buffet, to achieve success, i.e. become rich. Not seven pop up shops but diversifying and dealing investments, mutual funds, acquiring property, and so on..

I am a creative and a true creative can dabble in just about most things artistically.  So I found myself thinking of businesses that I could brand later on.  I came up with four.  Crazy right? All with very little start up costs.

Let’s see there’s my blog, Love, Cotton + Curls…..(holla at me), there’s my virtual assistant services called CreateGo Studio where we assist homes, new Moms, Mompreneurs and small businesses with personal concierge service, adimistrative and operational support, then there’s my conscious t-shirt line for kids and finally to tickle my social entrepreneurialism there is She Laughs, my baby, a soulcial gathering of African American girls ages 5-14 celebrating pioneering women through arts + crafts, a different kind of girl talk!  Date to be announced so go follow please.

You know I don’t want to come across as the get rich quick lady.  But at the end of the day I’m rich, what’s wrong with that lol.   I used to let self doubt and other people’s opinions shape how I approach these ventures.  But why hide your talent?! Don’t keep it a secret, there is someone out there that needs your business.

I now know my capabilities and responsibilities to not only my family but my surrounding community.  That’s the key to life I believe…we’re here to help someone else.  My goal is to show that I will keep trying until I get it right.  I want my boys to see that anything is possible.  Especially with the internet at your hands, for now…..unless Congress blocks the net neutrality bill, ooops did I say that….

Anyway, with God and YouTube…. chile anything is possible.  I want them to know they don’t have to depend on anyone to give you anything.

Clark Atlanta University has a mantra of “Find a way, or make one!” I keep that mind, often!!

No excuses!

Can’t get any simpler than that, right?

So what’s holding you back, fear?  Afraid you might actually be pretty good at it?  Don’t listen to the naysayers or yourself for that matter. We have to live, speak and breathe positivity. A lot of times people don’t believe in your dream because you don’t. Don’t get me wrong there is nothing wrong with finding a career from 9-5 with benefits and steady income, the life right.

This post is for the dreamer, the risk taker, the fed up….yeah you!

You’d be surprised to find that everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear.  I’m still learning this.  and each time I conquer fear it was the best decision ever time and time again.  If you fail, so what– keep trying, keep fighting and keep pushing and you my friend will have your own definition of a success in no time.

Find what you’re good at DO THAT!

And legalize it.

  1. Find a name for your business and visit your State Secretary website to make sure it is not taken.  Go ahead and use the name for emails and websites to secure no one else can use your name or domain.  If you live in the state of Georgia click here.

2. Work on creating your logo if you have not done so.  

3. Depending on the type of business and state secure a business license with your state.  

And brand it.

4.   Pick colors that you will use in your logo, assuming you have one, business cards and websites to create a consistent theme of your business.  People get used to seeing creative and captivating colors associated with your brand.

And market it.

5.  Scared money don’t make no money.  This is so true.  Do not be afraid to tell everyone about your business.  Market, market, market the hell out of it.  Set up social media accounts on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and LinkedIn to market your business.  This is the quickest and cheapest type of advertisement and marketing.

 

I love seeing other women connect and win. This is why I began my VA business– to help elevate and create space for other women to thrive and be.

Work hard for it and in due time….

Mo money, mo problems?

Do you have a side hustle you’ve always wanted to turn into a business?  What’s keeping you from that dream?

xo,

Jada

veggie omelette toast

Breakfast is served.  

I really enjoy cooking for my family even if at times Apple and I are the only ones who eat.  Mistor is pretty simple, not too fancy even with his food.  Me….my palette is all over the place.  

I cooked Veggie Omelette Toast yesterday and it was really delicious.  I saw a similar recipe on YouTube a while back but I honestly can’t remember the site I got this from but there are tons of other videos with recipes like this one.  I decided to put my own twist to it.  

So at 6:30 am Dos and I headed to the store PJs and all.    

I only came for bread and these beauties… 

Take time to stop….

Really simple recipe, all you need is: 
**all of the ingredients I used were organic except for the avocados** 

2 small tomatoes (I prefer on the vine)…

1/2 white medium sized onion…. 

1 Medium sized Hass Avocado 

Eggs…. I cooked for three people so adjust amounts to your serving size.  

EVOO… 

Sautée your onions and (I forgot to snap a pic), 2 cloves of garlic in a pan.  Cook for 3-4 minutes until onions are soft.  Add the tomatoes and avocado toward the end I like these firm.  

Cut holes out of your bread….
Place the veggies inside the holes and top with eggs…

Place the cut out piece of bread on top of the mixture.  

I cooked this on a med-low heat to make sure the eggs were fully cooked and also so the bread wouldn’t burn before it had cooked.  

So I loved it but it doesn’t unless the tot likes it….

Count Dracula has him occupied right now…. 

AH..

AH..

AH..

Winner! 

I gave him half of a piece to try first and he loved it and wanted his other half.  

Y’all, this is a winner because it’s a full plate of breakfast inside of toast. It can’t get more convenient than this for my household.  Perfect for Mommy who does most of the cooking.  

Hollaaaaaaaaa! 

What one piece meals do you run to?! 

****the opinions expressed on LCC are just that, MY two cents****

childhood unplugged series

Our favorite place to go is the park.

We moved to a new city and there is a wonderful park and our little know beach in Atlanta called the Clayton County International Park 4 miles away.

I often pack a lunch and we eat in the park.  Sometimes we feed the ducks….sometimes..okay ONE time.  They are huge and fast!  I want them to enjoy the outdoors as much as possible.  We really don’t use devices a lot so there are no addictions other than that cell phone but mostly because the 20 month just wants to say cheese and take pics.

I recently stumbled upon Childhood Unplugged, a group of mothers who are photographers that capture children at play.   This is my favorite type of photo capture of my kids when they are at play and at their happiest.

I had to snap pics quickly because the clouds were coming in.  


I encourage you to check them out and start capturing those moments.

be happy.

Love, Cotton & Curls