The last three years have been great, I have connected with other moms, made new friends, live and socially.

BUT.

There is always a but, how effective is my platform. I am always at a cross roads as to what content to post that will create a discussion. When you look at all the social media influencer pages everything is prim, proper, beautiful, even mystifying with bold pictures.

BUT.

At first, I truly blogged in hopes of gaining followers and being labeled as an “influencer.” Securing the bag and gaining popularity was high on the list.

But now that my kids are growing, I cannot help but notice the world and the times we live in. To be a great parent is to make your mark, set paths and examples and legacy for your kids. The ultimate goal: for them to have and be better than what you are.

We are living in horrible times with that demon and his inept wife as president, yes I said it, I have no sympathy for her either. Women have often been just as treacherous as their racist and bigoted counterparts.

Being a racist is becoming popular. Hatred is becoming popular. Violence is popular. And it could happen to anyone at anytime.

No racism has always been there. We’ve just never seen it’s ugly face displayed as often as we see on TV.

I loathe him and all that his administration and followers stand for.

There is no safety, no peace, no kindness, no compassion, no tolerance and lastly there is no GOD in this administration.

Haven’t you noticed?

I have worked very hard to get to the point where I have a true voice and at this point in my life and my career I have a responsibility to do what’s best for the world and not what is most popular.’ – Beyonce

At this point in my life, at 40, popularity isn’t even a goal for me. Change is. Doing what is mandatory for my kids to thrive in America. I want to use this platform to shed light on the good in the world but also the worst of it.

But first, VOTE them out of office. I’m with Maxine Waters, if you see them in public, let them know how you feel. After all they work for us, our voices.

The youth of today began this millennial movement for change with the March for Our Lives movement to change gun laws.

I am delighted young people are aware and involved. Watch out!

I hope you’re registered because voting, not just in the presidential election, but primary elections will change this presidency. Vote out the senators, state representatives and lawmakers that do not have our best interests at heart. You can register and check to see if your registration is still valid here it only takes 30 seconds.

Do you know her?

Her name is Nia Wilson.

Say it with me.

Say her name.

Nia Wilson.

If you haven’t heard of her please click here to be informed. She was the victim of a horrible white supremaciat stabbing attack that took her life and left her sister critically injured.

I mean what in the fuck is going on.

Being racist is becoming popular. Hatred is popular. Violence is popular. And it could happen to anyone at anytime.

Yes, even you.

We have loads of work to do. It’s cool to post your beauty hacks, dopest outfits and places and people you have seen. Enjoy life, really enjoy it. But can you really be at peace when another’s life doesn’t matter, isn’t fully capable or allowed to enjoy the liberties and freedoms of the world.

But don’t forget life outside those squares is real. I hope you are using your voice for change as well. We can’t be distracted by what only makes us feel good. We have to always be affected by that lump I our throats, the drops of our stomach and tearing eyes to stay connected to each other I this world .

It’s really simple, the solution that is.

LOVE.

I know it cliche but it’s the truth. Because within love you find, peace, hope, faith and ACTION. Love is all of those things but most of all, it’s a verb.

Love is action.

So I will be at rallies this year, protest, signing petitions, making donations and whatever it takes to make change happen.

But until then I will enjoy babies and my family in my lifetime and pray this world will be different for #dembabies

Blessings!!

xo,

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hats off to the bride

It’s exactly 58 days away until our wedding or as I tell my Mama…”it’s not a wedding, it’s an experience.” The day finally came.

My bridal shower…..and it was heavenly..

I’m not big on attention and weddings are the exact opposite. All of the attention is on the bride. So I’m working through this social intro-extrovert…-ism I have going on.

Planning this wedding is nothing short of stressful, just the details that go into planning is taxing but I must say I am enjoying the ride.

I’ll say I anticipated this day being surrounded by family and friends in celebration of the big day.  I’ve also somewhat dreaded this day because of what I’d wear and what I’d look like in it.

I wanted everyone to look absolutely fabulous so it was a dresses and fascinators themed event.

It’s was a rough year with two pregnancies and two casearan’s.   My body has done some things and unfairly, I have done some things to my body.

But that fear came and went and I decided my mommy heart was bigger than my tummy part!!

Take a peek….

****Photo credits of the food and decorations taken by my future cousin in law Keisha Carter. 

#StillOnAHigh Lemme tell you I worked hard to get into an XL from my fav website for dresses which is the largest size they offer. Diet changes & exercise was/is a must. I had a C-section, got pregnant 3 months later then had another C-section all in ONE year. My doc was not happy with me but a woman’s body is f$cking amazing ……so yeah it was a rough year for me. I almost said I wasn’t gonna wear this dress bc of my tummy but shit ain’t nobody ehva said to me I love your tummy Jada….NOPE…. always I love YOU Jada… So mommy’s shout out to your tummy’s….if nobody else rub/loves it make sure you do!! 

J

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just say no to school

I think somebody is ready for pre-school…

I create a schooling activity with Sage for about an hour or so a day, hell, 10 minutes most of the time. It’s mostly sporadic throughout the day but consistent.  We read the Sage the same book over and over for about a month.  That was a tip from a schoolteacher.  He recognizes sounds, knows A,S,Z (in that order) and knows his name when he sees it.

consistency.

I am winging this basically. BUT he can say thank you, please, and covers his mouth when he coughs. #thatsmyboy I want him to be polite first as well as smart.

Please and thank you will take you a long way!

I feel a little less guilty when he pulls out his school books!  My fiancé and I have mulled over the idea of homeschooling but I’m not sure if I’m quite organized enough. I read to Sage pretty much every night and I can see him picking up on certain pages and says what’s he’ll see next.  I feel as though I am holding him back from learning and discovering new skills, life skills too.

Socially, I want him to come be aware of other people and their differences.  But it’s a scary world.  I don’t want to instill the fear I have for him, not only as my child but as a BLACK child.  Most of the world doesn’t seem to care for or about them.

Now what the real deal is….. I don’t want NOBODY to mess with my kids.  There are so many crazy things and people, it’s incomprehensible.

I just have to pray and ask for discernment.  And a prayer of protection over them too.

progress.

I love watching him grow and learn and figure things out on his own. I’d like to think I helped in those decisions he’s making. *toot toot but I still take first priority in teaching him manners.

I love polite children.

I believe manners come with discipline so I’m getting a twoofer.

What convinced you to do homeschooling?

 I would love to hear tips and suggestions!

thank you for reading.

please come again.

be happy.

jada

childhood unplugged 

We had a full week and Mama was tired by Thursday but I hung in there for the kiddos… 

Centennial Park was so much fun but Sage was not trying to get wet.   We had a play date with Sages buddy…. he loved the water needless to say!


Baby Jus got wet too…


Tot Spot at Atlantic station had a tennis theme for the babies.  It was too adorable watching them play… 

Vegan pops…. 


and then the Juneteenth festival… 

And we capped it off with Father’s Day…

…..behind the scenes of this photoshoot! I caught the spit up just in time! 

happy father’s day.

be happy.

Project 52 || Week 6

Happy Valentine’s Day!! 

The day when love is officially celebrated is here and it’s included in this week’s Project 52 challenge.  This week’s theme is My Funny Valentine!  How appropriate because these two keep me smiling and lighthearted with their smiles and laughter…

*cues in the cuteness

  
This year was our first Valentine’s as a family and we kept it low key and stayed home with Ribeyes and crab legs.  Plus it’s kinda hard finding a sitter on Love’s Holiday! 

The BTS shots were fun too… 

He can finally snatch my hair up…

  

  
Daddy actually cooperated but…..

 
Fuzzy navels……

  
Their convos….who knows????

  
  
 
Happy Valentine’s Day!! 

xo, 

Love, Cotton & Curls