The last three years have been great, I have connected with other moms, made new friends, live and socially.

BUT.

There is always a but, how effective is my platform. I am always at a cross roads as to what content to post that will create a discussion. When you look at all the social media influencer pages everything is prim, proper, beautiful, even mystifying with bold pictures.

BUT.

At first, I truly blogged in hopes of gaining followers and being labeled as an “influencer.” Securing the bag and gaining popularity was high on the list.

But now that my kids are growing, I cannot help but notice the world and the times we live in. To be a great parent is to make your mark, set paths and examples and legacy for your kids. The ultimate goal: for them to have and be better than what you are.

We are living in horrible times with that demon and his inept wife as president, yes I said it, I have no sympathy for her either. Women have often been just as treacherous as their racist and bigoted counterparts.

Being a racist is becoming popular. Hatred is becoming popular. Violence is popular. And it could happen to anyone at anytime.

No racism has always been there. We’ve just never seen it’s ugly face displayed as often as we see on TV.

I loathe him and all that his administration and followers stand for.

There is no safety, no peace, no kindness, no compassion, no tolerance and lastly there is no GOD in this administration.

Haven’t you noticed?

I have worked very hard to get to the point where I have a true voice and at this point in my life and my career I have a responsibility to do what’s best for the world and not what is most popular.’ – Beyonce

At this point in my life, at 40, popularity isn’t even a goal for me. Change is. Doing what is mandatory for my kids to thrive in America. I want to use this platform to shed light on the good in the world but also the worst of it.

But first, VOTE them out of office. I’m with Maxine Waters, if you see them in public, let them know how you feel. After all they work for us, our voices.

The youth of today began this millennial movement for change with the March for Our Lives movement to change gun laws.

I am delighted young people are aware and involved. Watch out!

I hope you’re registered because voting, not just in the presidential election, but primary elections will change this presidency. Vote out the senators, state representatives and lawmakers that do not have our best interests at heart. You can register and check to see if your registration is still valid here it only takes 30 seconds.

Do you know her?

Her name is Nia Wilson.

Say it with me.

Say her name.

Nia Wilson.

If you haven’t heard of her please click here to be informed. She was the victim of a horrible white supremaciat stabbing attack that took her life and left her sister critically injured.

I mean what in the fuck is going on.

Being racist is becoming popular. Hatred is popular. Violence is popular. And it could happen to anyone at anytime.

Yes, even you.

We have loads of work to do. It’s cool to post your beauty hacks, dopest outfits and places and people you have seen. Enjoy life, really enjoy it. But can you really be at peace when another’s life doesn’t matter, isn’t fully capable or allowed to enjoy the liberties and freedoms of the world.

But don’t forget life outside those squares is real. I hope you are using your voice for change as well. We can’t be distracted by what only makes us feel good. We have to always be affected by that lump I our throats, the drops of our stomach and tearing eyes to stay connected to each other I this world .

It’s really simple, the solution that is.

LOVE.

I know it cliche but it’s the truth. Because within love you find, peace, hope, faith and ACTION. Love is all of those things but most of all, it’s a verb.

Love is action.

So I will be at rallies this year, protest, signing petitions, making donations and whatever it takes to make change happen.

But until then I will enjoy babies and my family in my lifetime and pray this world will be different for #dembabies

Blessings!!

xo,

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Oh Baby!!

Kelvin & Jada
Well it was a whirl of a weekend! I had my first baby shower in Atlanta and it was amazing, joyful and the happiest occasion to say the most.  The theme was a Hawaiian Luau and it was expectantly fun.  My closest girlfriends threw it for me and it turned out amazing.

My boo thangs!!
Baby showers are always special and filled with lots of oohs and awwwws.    My family and his family joined us in our celebration and our excitement for our baby boy.  For me this sealed the deal that my son will be here in eight freakin’ weeks–Get the &@5; out!!

Me and Mom Dukes
I’m asked constantly are you nervous…..”No” I say vehemently!! I welcome this new chapter in my life graciously.  I am beginning to be bored with taking care of me, working on me, being with me, getting to know me, etc.  I guess I’m basically saying I can’t wait to see how becoming a mama will change me–into a more giving, loving and selfless person.  I mean it’s not about me anymore.

Aloha Baby Sage!!
The food was awesome everyone talked and texted me about it.  My most favorite part was the cake.  Isn’t it adorable?!?! It was ordered from Sabrina’s Cakes in Atlanta:::hit her up on Facebook, you won’t be disappointed y’all!  Not only was it beautiful but it was delicious too.  We decided to cut around the baby and save the top for Sage’s 1st birthday.  We’ll let him smash it up!!

Meet the family!
My cousins!!
I welcome what Sage will bring to our lives and the lessons he will make us take heed to.  I know he will give me a different way of approaching a world that will be somewhat of a brand new entity to us.  I am sure he can feel all the love and joy that surrounds him, not just from his mommy and daddy but from those that love us so much!

What was your baby shower like? I’d love to hear about it!

****The opinions expressed on Brown Babies -n- Heels are just that!! My two cents!!!****

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When I found out I was pregnant, I immediately thought back to the week my son was possibly conceived and I nearly fainted.  I had received an offer for a new position and I celebrated….boy did we celebrate, 1 Tequila, 2 Tequila, 3 Tequila…!! I was hesitant to inform my doctor about it because I did not want to be perceived as a bad mom but truthfully Continue reading “Wine down…..Monday?”

Six Reasons to Enjoy Your Pregnancy

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Well it looks like summer is never going to stop here in Atlanta. Being pregnant during the hottest months of the year was trying and sweaty but it has stretched my patience just a little further. To know that I can handle being uncomfortable for damn near a year was truly a testament of my endurance and the beginnings of the bounds and depths of my love for my son! Many people would comment I know you’re “miserable” or “Wow, you’re going to have a long hot pregnancy ahead of you!” I mean really, do you really think I have not thought of this but I digress, I choose to see the beauty in each and every month of my pregnancy. Continue reading “Six Reasons to Enjoy Your Pregnancy”