The last three years have been great, I have connected with other moms, made new friends, live and socially.

BUT.

There is always a but, how effective is my platform. I am always at a cross roads as to what content to post that will create a discussion. When you look at all the social media influencer pages everything is prim, proper, beautiful, even mystifying with bold pictures.

BUT.

At first, I truly blogged in hopes of gaining followers and being labeled as an “influencer.” Securing the bag and gaining popularity was high on the list.

But now that my kids are growing, I cannot help but notice the world and the times we live in. To be a great parent is to make your mark, set paths and examples and legacy for your kids. The ultimate goal: for them to have and be better than what you are.

We are living in horrible times with that demon and his inept wife as president, yes I said it, I have no sympathy for her either. Women have often been just as treacherous as their racist and bigoted counterparts.

Being a racist is becoming popular. Hatred is becoming popular. Violence is popular. And it could happen to anyone at anytime.

No racism has always been there. We’ve just never seen it’s ugly face displayed as often as we see on TV.

I loathe him and all that his administration and followers stand for.

There is no safety, no peace, no kindness, no compassion, no tolerance and lastly there is no GOD in this administration.

Haven’t you noticed?

I have worked very hard to get to the point where I have a true voice and at this point in my life and my career I have a responsibility to do what’s best for the world and not what is most popular.’ – Beyonce

At this point in my life, at 40, popularity isn’t even a goal for me. Change is. Doing what is mandatory for my kids to thrive in America. I want to use this platform to shed light on the good in the world but also the worst of it.

But first, VOTE them out of office. I’m with Maxine Waters, if you see them in public, let them know how you feel. After all they work for us, our voices.

The youth of today began this millennial movement for change with the March for Our Lives movement to change gun laws.

I am delighted young people are aware and involved. Watch out!

I hope you’re registered because voting, not just in the presidential election, but primary elections will change this presidency. Vote out the senators, state representatives and lawmakers that do not have our best interests at heart. You can register and check to see if your registration is still valid here it only takes 30 seconds.

Do you know her?

Her name is Nia Wilson.

Say it with me.

Say her name.

Nia Wilson.

If you haven’t heard of her please click here to be informed. She was the victim of a horrible white supremaciat stabbing attack that took her life and left her sister critically injured.

I mean what in the fuck is going on.

Being racist is becoming popular. Hatred is popular. Violence is popular. And it could happen to anyone at anytime.

Yes, even you.

We have loads of work to do. It’s cool to post your beauty hacks, dopest outfits and places and people you have seen. Enjoy life, really enjoy it. But can you really be at peace when another’s life doesn’t matter, isn’t fully capable or allowed to enjoy the liberties and freedoms of the world.

But don’t forget life outside those squares is real. I hope you are using your voice for change as well. We can’t be distracted by what only makes us feel good. We have to always be affected by that lump I our throats, the drops of our stomach and tearing eyes to stay connected to each other I this world .

It’s really simple, the solution that is.

LOVE.

I know it cliche but it’s the truth. Because within love you find, peace, hope, faith and ACTION. Love is all of those things but most of all, it’s a verb.

Love is action.

So I will be at rallies this year, protest, signing petitions, making donations and whatever it takes to make change happen.

But until then I will enjoy babies and my family in my lifetime and pray this world will be different for #dembabies

Blessings!!

xo,

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ready, start 40-ish mom

***the opinions expressed on LCC are just that, MY two cents. ***

Fawty is approaching fast, like in 4 months. But I welcome it.

I’ve been blogging for about three years and I always felt I had a bit of a late start. I’m 39 with a 2 and 1 year old. Yeah… I started late. I began journaling my transition into motherhood to vent and record the process of pregnancy but eventually it turned into a blog to reach out and connect with other moms.

I’m finding this blogger world is filled with beautiful, vivacious twenty and thirty something millennial moms and I’m just not relating at times.

Sure, motherhood is a connection in itself but I need to hear from women who made or didn’t have a choice at making babies this late in the game. Is it a good decision or should we have done it way sooner?

No regrets here…. yeah right. The energy alone it takes to keep up with kids is a pro for babies early. But the time for me to have my babies was the time for me to have them.

Photo by Kita Bryant

First I have to decide what is or thought was a successful blog to me.

Paid.

I see that’s not as easy either. Of course the main goal would be to gain tons of followers and paid advertisements, but at 40 is that really the point.

40, I welcome you with open arms. Grudges are lost, memories matter + kindness is power.

It feels like patience, serenity, flow and grace. .

Is that you GOD?

Now my definition of success has transitioned and for the better. Being successful is connecting with a community of women of color over 40 who want to make positive changes in their lives as well as in their families and communities. I mean it’s our duty and rites of passage as we age in society, to make it better for the new group of moms.

Trill mothers.

I want to inspire women in midlife! And from what I see there aren’t many 40-ish fabulous women of color blogs out there besides fashion and beauty and that is sparse too. Some of us are glamorous and some not fancy, all the time I should say. I clean up well. It’s just beauty and fashion are low on my list with #dembabies. Plus I need help in styling a 40 year old body, yes LAWD somebody help me.

I remember being in my 20s and I looked up to older women mostly not my peers. The beauty, the class, the grace, the confidence…..YES!!!

I’ll put up a post or two on anti-aging or age defying tricks lol…that’s the beauty medium I’m categorized in at 40. Post some outfits besides the mom uniforms. I don’t want to go backwards, sure my 20s were fun but it was a confusing time for me trying to work through life.

So I’ll just remain me.

J a d a.

The plain Jane, the girl next door and hope you find something that ignites a flame, inspires or creates a space where you are able to find what makes you truly happy with your life and yourself.

Whether it is family, love, lifestyle, beauty or fashion I hope you will join me on my journey through 40-ish.

I started a Facebook group called Ready, Start 40-ish

for black moms beginning families 40ish.. just to connect personally with followers… I really hate that word.. working on another term. Please join our 2 member group for now lol.

So good day for now Mamas!

What inspires you right now in the moment? What are some of your over 40 blogs, I’d love to follow?

Blessings!!

xo,

Jada

my go to winter quickies for meals

It’s winter and I’m actually excited about it because the holidays and my birthday is approaching.

I love cooking but I love one pot meals.

I have two toddlers that have bottomless pits so I have to be careful and creative with their selections.

Soup is the best way to get the boys to eat their veggies without kind of realizing it. I don’t generally have a problem with them eating veggies they chose to eat it last of course.

I finally got my egg drop soup down!!

Super simple recipe!

Chicken broth, green onion, mushroom soup base (my preference) and three eggs slightly beaten.

Bring to a boil all your ingredients but the eggs. Once water comes to a boil simmer did wh and then add eggs. Stir while pouring eggs in. If you want larger eggs in your soup then don’t stir often the opposite for smaller eggs.

I always have fresh veggies left over after cooking meals and it usually goes bad or tossed. I blend some items but I have started to make veggie soup out of all the veggies left over.

This week we had lima beans, red lentils, green beans, corn, tomatoes, okra and potatoes.

I’ve started keeping a pot of beans or soup on the stove lately. For me, it’s cheap, easy and quick to make. I usually prepare it while I’m making breakfast and simmer for an hour to an and a half.

Beans and cornbread were a staple in my house growing up. I vowed to never eat them again…… that is until you had kids so now he boys get beans and cornbread in the regular. I tried a Mexican cornbread…Y’ALL!!! I’ll have to post that later.

I add a ton of veggies and I use a vegetarian soup base that I purchased from an Asian market.

Another way I clean my fridge of left over food is assortment trays. These are really fun to use and the kids love it. Sometimes you just have half is bunch of grapes, half a pack of crackers , two slices of meat, I could go on. This allows you to taste some of everything. Sometimes, I just get tired of seeing some food and just ready to get rid of it so this is easy way to do it.

So soups, beans, assortment trays are all regulars over here.

What type of quick meals do you keep on the stove or regulars at home?

just say no to school

I think somebody is ready for pre-school…

I create a schooling activity with Sage for about an hour or so a day, hell, 10 minutes most of the time. It’s mostly sporadic throughout the day but consistent.  We read the Sage the same book over and over for about a month.  That was a tip from a schoolteacher.  He recognizes sounds, knows A,S,Z (in that order) and knows his name when he sees it.

consistency.

I am winging this basically. BUT he can say thank you, please, and covers his mouth when he coughs. #thatsmyboy I want him to be polite first as well as smart.

Please and thank you will take you a long way!

I feel a little less guilty when he pulls out his school books!  My fiancé and I have mulled over the idea of homeschooling but I’m not sure if I’m quite organized enough. I read to Sage pretty much every night and I can see him picking up on certain pages and says what’s he’ll see next.  I feel as though I am holding him back from learning and discovering new skills, life skills too.

Socially, I want him to come be aware of other people and their differences.  But it’s a scary world.  I don’t want to instill the fear I have for him, not only as my child but as a BLACK child.  Most of the world doesn’t seem to care for or about them.

Now what the real deal is….. I don’t want NOBODY to mess with my kids.  There are so many crazy things and people, it’s incomprehensible.

I just have to pray and ask for discernment.  And a prayer of protection over them too.

progress.

I love watching him grow and learn and figure things out on his own. I’d like to think I helped in those decisions he’s making. *toot toot but I still take first priority in teaching him manners.

I love polite children.

I believe manners come with discipline so I’m getting a twoofer.

What convinced you to do homeschooling?

 I would love to hear tips and suggestions!

thank you for reading.

please come again.

be happy.

jada

childhood unplugged 

We had a full week and Mama was tired by Thursday but I hung in there for the kiddos… 

Centennial Park was so much fun but Sage was not trying to get wet.   We had a play date with Sages buddy…. he loved the water needless to say!


Baby Jus got wet too…


Tot Spot at Atlantic station had a tennis theme for the babies.  It was too adorable watching them play… 

Vegan pops…. 


and then the Juneteenth festival… 

And we capped it off with Father’s Day…

…..behind the scenes of this photoshoot! I caught the spit up just in time! 

happy father’s day.

be happy.